How do you handle being stuck. You know, that place where you feel in limbo. You feel you cannot seem to get a grip. You even may feel out of control at times. Even in that unstuck feeling you still are managing racing your kiddos around, doing the grocery shopping, working the job, and all things in between BUT you still feel stuck in a space that leaves you discontent. Going through the motions.
I have learned over the years that these stuck feelings are peaks and valleys in the seasons of life and sometimes that are just bound to happen. I have ALSO learned that the stuck-ness may be God’s way of allowing us to pause and evaluate what is important. We are caught up is so much of the BUSY of life that we race from one thing to the other and sometimes we miss the good stuff.
Secondly, I have learned the hard way that if you are stuck TOO long you may need intervention. I have had several moments in motherhood where I walk through the day and sometimes the evening like a robot. Get up, make breakfast, lunches, get them to school and get home and literally stare into space wondering how to put one foot in front of the other. The days that the bed is calling, but then you think you may seem like a lazy if you take a “self-care, mental health” day. Oh, heaven forbid how does that look! Sometimes I don’t even want my husband, who works from home, to ask me, “What are you doing today?” It may be just a general question in his perspective, but inside my heart just can’t take one more obligation or self-judgment that I am not doing enough because what he may not know is that I am managing all my plate can handle…right this moment.
I have had no problem telling medical professionals most of my life how I feel and I have never had a problem seeking counseling to work through this feeling of being stuck. God tells us the only way the light gets through is to push it through the darkness. (I am paraphrasing). I encourage those of you who have not made that step, PLEASE do so. It can be empowering and it is such a relief to do something to get “feeling” back into your sweet life you are leading.
Lastly, if you are someone who struggles with any type of illness, whether that is chronic pain, autoimmune, disease, or just flat out something that reeks havoc on your life. I SEE YOU and I FEEL YOU. Women battle so much especially after we give birth. Nothing is EVER, I repeat, EVER the same as it was once before. Your biology, physiology, psychology, and everything else under the sun. Almost eight years into the life of my triplet girls and I am learning how to manage all the change. AND add turning 40 on top of that. WOWZERS.
I say all this to encourage others that the STUCK is ok. Just don’t hang out there too long. If you find yourself being in that place too long, reach out for help and tell those around you that you are struggling. Even if you are struggling to put into words how you feel, tell someone that too.
Your loved ones, friends, family, your tribe, needs to know how to surround you and lift you up to a place of wellness. A place of what balance (as all women are laughing) for you.
Isaiah 60 says, “Rise up and shine, for your light has come. The shining-greatness of the Lord has risen upon you. For see, darkness will cover the earth. Much darkness will cover the people. But the Lord will rise upon you, and His shining-greatness will be seen upon you. 3Nations will come to your light. And kings will see the shining-greatness of the Lord on you.
“Lift up your eyes and look around you, and see. They all gather together. They come to you. Your sons will come from far away, and your daughters will be carried in the arms. Then you will see and shine with joy. Your heart will be glad and full of joy, because the riches of the sea will be turned to you.”
Trust God to navigate your life and to guide you through the stuck moments. He has already gone before you. He has already traveled the road and He will deliver you from these trying times. Also, please seek help from those who know better than you, medical and otherwise.
Rise up my dear friends. The light is much brighter and the sun is warmer on the other side. Hang in there!