The long awaited surgery

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On our way…Surgery Day

If you know me, you know I have never once lied about the lack of sleep in our house.  It has by far been the hardest part of raising the girls.  We felt about a year ago we were getting somewhere and then we had this little one habitually waking and coming in our room every single night.  Emily is my petite and mighty little girl.  From conception, she has always been “the one to watch,”  like she was a Heisman Trophy candidate you kept your eye on all season to see what they would do.  She always had us on our toes, our little Baby A.  Coming into this world at just two pounds and 11 ounces, she has never failed to amaze us with her fighter attitude.  She is not much of a complainer at all but we began noticing a pattern that worried us.  She was not staying asleep and was exhausted in the morning.  This little one would snore like nothing you heard before.  I often would confuse her and my husband.  Big Bear and Little Bear!  She also would listen to things at such a high volume we wondered what was up!  Well, after two medical opinions and tonsils like the size of Texas, we decided to proceed with having them removed.  She also basically failed a hearing test and if that doesn’t make you feel awful as a parent that you didn’t know.  Like I said, she is not a complainer and has always found a way to compensate.

Surgery of any kind is enough to make any parent weary and emotional.  This would be her third set of ear tubes and first tonsillectomy.  The end result is what we focused on and prayed about.   The morning of her surgery I read from a devotional the following: “Some trust in and boast of chariots and some of horses, but we will trust in and boast the name of the Lord our God,” Psalm 20:7.  It continued to speak to me and calm my nerves.  It stated that trust is not confused, because it has no need to lean on its own understanding and does not give up or panic.  Well, if God says so…That is what I was gonna do.

Her is our girl coloring patiently as we waited….Avery would have been bouncing off walls. Hehe.  Camdyn at this point may have convinced us to leave all together.

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Waiting..waiting…

And we waited some more….She decided to try on gloves and check out her Daddy’s teeth.  I think she was thinking, “Yep Dad.  They are big and white.”  Haha.  I suited up to go back with her until she was ready for the procedure.  I was listening to her voice and how before it sounded as if she was holding her nose as she spoke.  I thought that I may hear a new girl after all this and that was just ok with us.   20 minutes later is was all over and we were on our road to recovery.

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Still waiting…..

The nurses said she opened her eyes and didn’t complain or cry and she honestly rarely has since.  I truly think she is a reminder in my life of how to trust and have faith and overcome.  She has always been my fighter and always been my reminder of the glory of God, just as her sister’s are as well.

The moments we get to snuggle and nurture just one of these girls at a time is slim.  Surgery is not the ideal way to get personal time with your mom and dad but I think she has been pleased with it 🙂  She has just been all snuggles and by my side since Thursday.  Her sister’s got her this yellow Care Bear and I think it really helped bring a little sunshine to her even when she didn’t want it.  I don’t think I said a lot of “I love yous,” or gave kisses after any procedure I have had…This kiddo sure does and it was precious.

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Just waking up

Just put it down in the books as another obstacle in parenthood fought and overcome!  For that alone I will continue to put my trust in Him and try not to take other things in life so seriously.  But again, you will never hear me lie when sleep is non-existent in this house.

Praying for peace and quiet in the night hours to come!

Love,

Mama Bear

Christmas Magic

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GIrls with Santa 2015

I can’t believe yet another holiday with this trio has come and gone with a blink of an eye.  We celebrated our fifth Christmas.  Five beautiful Christmas’ with these babies.  Boy, I remember our first Christmas.  Avery and Emily had tubes put in their ears at 10 months so right before Christmas.  We had spent eight miserable weeks with babies with constant ear infections.  At that point, I am not even sure I remember sleeping at all.  Come to think of it…yep…not much sleep really now either.

I told myself I would start early this year on shopping and planning in case the dreaded seasonal sickness hit us again as it always does each year.  I am blessed that the Type A in me went with my gut.  We spent two weeks dealing with pneumonia with all three girls.  I mean really? Pneumonia?  Last year it was the Flu.  Year before it was RSV.  Year before it was Upper Respiratory and Ear Infections.  I swear, this next holiday season we are spending eight weeks in the Bahamas!

The girls actually enjoyed Santa this year.  We had no crazy tears this year even though those pics are some of the best in our vault to date. They talked to Santa all about what they wanted for Christmas.  Go figure that it was not one of the things I had yet to purchase.  Thank God for Amazon Prime!  Amazon Prime and I are in a pretty exclusive relationship.  We can communicate any hour of the night or day and it is extremely prompt on ending up on my doorstep within two days.  Do not think we will break up anytime soon!

We shopped for foster children for our second season this year.  The girls really enjoy it.  We tell them a little about each child and give them each the job of picking out what that child would want for Christmas.  We love making this part of our giving season so they understand some day that it is truly an honor and privilege to do for others.

Look at these sweet girls on Christmas morning!  They are really spoiled beyond their heart’s desires because Santa and their grandparents and aunt and uncles.  Daddy was reading letters that Santa wrote each of the girls.  Bryan is really a little word smith when it comes to these projects.  From new babies and dolls to strollers and pretend play and puzzles and games and crafts…you name it…it is here.  Yet, are my kiddos the only ones two days after Christmas that say, “What are we doing today?”

The holidays really are so much more meaningful with these three.  As we look into the New Year, we pray for health and happiness for all of our friends and family.  Emily will be having a surgery the first part of January so we graciously asked for prayers.  Tonsils gone and a third set of tubes!  She has really been struggling hearing and actually close to failed her last hearing exam in one ear so we pray this is a solution that will make her feel so much better…and listen to things at a much,much lower volume!!!

Happiest New Year!

Blessings,

The Coys

 

 

“In All Things…Give Thanks”

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This year, our little family decided to ring in the season with Thanksgiving cards.  When our world is in such crisis and we all know people hurting in our communities and around the world, it is so important to value what we have right here at home.  I know I am not the only mother that may wake up like Mary Poppins and end the day being Cruela Deville.  There are days that are more ragged than others, go smoother than others and there are days that are just knock dead drag out  days from you know where!  Lately, I have tried to stop more and stare at the girls when they sleep, hone in when they are loving one another when I am not looking, cherishing more of the moments that may not even make sense when they are congested with screams and shrills…fighting and yelling…tears over who knows what.  I am leaning in and loving it all.

I have not posted in a while so I have some catching up to do!  There is no place like home with these little Dorothys.  Yes, they were all Dorothy.  Emily decided she was the first to be Dorothy.  The selling point was definitely Toto in the basket and the red glittery shoes.  The other two quickly changed from mermaids to Dorothy, no questions asked.  Girls and accessories.  Even at four, it is clearly apparent that fashion is important.

Dorothy Halloween 2015Five minutes before we walked out the door to Trick-Or-Treat, Emily decided she wanted to be her own little person with her own ideas and quickly turned into Elsa.  The good thing about not worrying about the costumes is that we have tons of them to choose from.  No harm no foul and everyone was happy!  “Let is Go” Right?

The girls are rockin’ Pre-K!  They love their teachers and they are learning so many amazing things.  The big thing they love is being “the line leader.”  Recently, they all had an opportunity to do what they call “ME Day.”  Their teachers send home a special bag and they get to fill it with what they want to show their class.  What many may see as a simple project for their kids was taken very seriously to mine!  The girls do not get too many opportunities at home to take a hold of something that is just individually “THEIRS.”  A sister is always there to partake.  It was heartwarming to them so proud to show off their favorite things to their classmates.  To be just Avery….Camdyn…Emily.

They all told me, “Mom, I don’t need any help with my homework.”  I wish they did need help, because when they get older and ask for help on that math homework they are going to be up a creek!

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Last night, we were honored to be chosen for the girls to be photographed and placed on the Mercy NICU Wall of Hope.  Through the March of Dimes, this special project hopes to inspire the hundreds of parents who walk through those unchartered doors of the NICU with so much fear of the unknown with their sick babies.  Our time in the NICU was scary, but we had amazing faith and a wonderful medical team.  Seeing our girls next to other success stories was really emotional.  For the first time in a long time, visiting the NICU was a happy moment in my life.  I had visited in the past, but still the smell of the medical soap, the sounds of the monitors, the big double doors that open and many other reasons really kept me from putting the experience behind me for many reasons.  This was sort of a break through for me that spoke to me in volumes about how far we have come in our journey.  The girls are such miracles that it is hard to imagine that moment in life almost five years ago.  But, it happened and it is always a part of us and now in happy and promising way!

Mercy NICU Reception with Girls

 

So to wrap up for this post, we wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving and many blessings.  The girls always remind me that giving does not have to be done in big magnitudes or big financial amounts to make an impact or difference in someone’s life.  I challenge each of you to do an unselfish act of kindness for someone you love…or someone you know that needs love.

“In all things..give Thanks.” 1 Thess. 5:18

Love always,

The Coys

CATCH UP! Thursdays with A Trip Continued….Camdyn

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I didn’t forget about my little mama Camdyn.  Her day was two weeks ago.  It rained that day so we spent time at the library.

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Who knew just something as simple as the library could be so much fun.  We read books of course…And who would have thought their would be several stations of computers to play on in the library.  Go figure these days right?  We snuggled up in a reading nook and read a few books, but she was more interested in really playing on the computer.  Camdyn is such my little mama. She is always such sweet-natured and worried about others.  With that sweet caring little face comes a lot of sensitivity.  I do adore that about her, but I know that she may be using a little bit of that manipulate me a tad these days.  That manipulation comes especially when she may have done something wrong, been a little too sassy in a response to me or her sisters or ironically it comes out in full form when its time to help pick up!  I got your little number Cam Cam!  None the less, she is a sweet soul and always has been.  She is the first to tell someone they are pretty or she likes something about them (earrings, shirt, painting etc.).  We have had a lot of “She isn’t playing with me,” lately from all of the girls.  Camdyn will run to me and get upset but she doesn’t hesitate to tattle a little too!

Emily had a day last week and chose to swim by herself with me at her Nana’s house.  We packed lunches and just had fun at the pool.  It was totally different with one 4 year old in the water as opposed to three!  Needless to say, those dollars spent on ISR swim training have been valuable and wonderful.

These special one-on-ones with my girls have really been wonderful.  They look forward to them too.  It is really helping me hone in who they are aside from being a triplet.  Who they are as little growing people.  And honestly what their true love language is as a child.  If you have not read, “Love Languages of Children” by Gary Chapman do yourself a favor…And while you are at it, if you haven’t read the “5 Love Languages..” do that too…Its for grown ups!  So many people, as I have stated so many times, believe that somehow they are all the same person because they look the same.  Could not be farther from the truth…and I am loving how they are becoming their own person.

We have been busy like all other families doing fun summer things!  Once I can regroup, I have a lot of thoughts and pics to share…It has been a valuable time of reflection this summer and I want to share some of those thoughts in the future!

Love always from The Coy Pond….

Thursdays with a Trip: Emily’s Day

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Well, here we are again.  Another Thursdays with a Trip edition and this time its with Emily Ray.  Again, I have told the girls they can pick what they wanna do with me within reason.  After Avery came home last week from the zoo, and bragging about it might I add, where do you think Emmie wanted to go?  Yep, we were off to the zoo.  I wasn’t exactly thrilled but I saw it coming.  I had it mapped out this time!  She picked pretty much the same path as Avery so I knew how to stay focused and out of the crowds and heat for as long as we could.

The sea-lion show was first.  As you see in this picture above she picked out a stuffed sea-lion.  Like we don’t enough stuffed animals as it is, I just could not refuse that face when she picked it out.  The magical moment of that was that when I asked her to pick one she responded with, “Well, what about Avery and Camdyn?”  My heart was so happy that considered them first.  Not going to lie, but as much as I wish this was the case with them all the time, don’t get it fooled.  We are not perfect! We are just like all other families and siblings.  We do love to praise them when they shine through and this was one of those moments.  That being said, Em picked out sea lions for each sister and we enjoyed the show.  She constantly wanted to know if I was doing the same exact thing with her as I did with Avery so she wouldn’t feel like she was missing out on anything.

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Emily is a really funny girl.  She has the quirkiest sense of humor.  Her Daddy and I are both a little strange in humor ourselves so it isn’t surprising.  She has a very creative imagination.  She used to really like to do things on her own and keep to herself. Lately, she has turned into my little show stopper in terms of putting on made up dances and singing shows.  Her Daddy has always called her “Bug” or “Emmie Bug.”  She recently told us she doesn’t like to be called Bug.  Emmie Bug was okay or Tink (which we always thought she was like a little Tinkerbell.)   Already establishing her identity!

Emily looking over fence at zooSince birth, Emily has always been a little fighter.  We also remind her we called her Little Hornet when we first brought her home because that little girl knew how to get so mad so quickly!  My little 2 pound girl is anything of the sorts anymore.  Still a fighter by nature, but a fashionista at heart.  At our house if you see dress up clothes ALL OVER THE PLACE they usually are created by her.  Once they end up back in her room it looks like the floor of a dressing room and nothing that she tried worked!  She has a very creative style that we do have to reel in sometimes when in public but I sure love her charisma.

And…you will never see such a tiny thing put down pizza like she does!  It’s not always great on my waistline, but they love Hideaway pizza.  I mean, who doesn’t?  I don’t weigh 30 pounds though either.

Emily at Hideaway

All in all we had a great day!  It is sure fun to look forward to and its fun to hear them tell stories about their day with me to their sisters and friends at school!  One of the best parts was her running to Avery and Camdyn and telling them she missed them.  Camdyn and Avery had pictures to share they drew for her.  It was a good day 🙂  Those are the moments that make the hair raising, screaming, fighting, tantrums, tears etc…worth every minute of it.  Hopefully, something we teach them is catching on.

Until next Thursday with my Camdyn girl.  I will have to think of something new and exciting about the zoo to tell everyone.  I don’t doubt she already has her mind made up.  I am praying for rain.

Blessings,

Momma to happy and silly little girls

Thursdays with a Trip: Avery’s adventure

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This summer, I am working on a new idea for our ever so delightful threesome.  As any mother knows, it is difficult once you add another child, or two or three or four, to the mix to spend quality time with each individually.  I never really had that alone time with one baby to begin with, so spending individual time with each of my girls is something I really crave.  As blessed as this gift is having triplets I always really missed the opportunity to hold each of them for an extended period of time without one of the others screaming or needing something.  I never had the chance to really stare at them while they were sleeping, because they NEVER DID.  All those first with a newborn you cherish were so crazy and such a blur that I still really need that time with my girls and I think they need it too.

On Thursdays, I will be adventuring with one of the girls to wherever (within reason) they want to go with just ME.  May seem silly to some, but it really is a joy to take a breath and focus on one of them at a time.  You can imagine the process of choosing who goes first right?  I need to post Camdyn’s day which was the week before just by chance…So it was between Emily and Avery.  I made Daddy do this one and they drew names.  Ironically, there were no tears and Emily and Camdyn went to their summer session at their school with smiles and had a great day.

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Avery chose the zoo…with everyone else in the city!  Here we are with our little selfie shot!  She grabbed my hand and my heart already knew it would be a great day.  She instantly picked the sea-lion show, stingray bay and the children’s area to play in the streams and spray grounds.  Avery is typically pretty loud and lately been full of a lot of sass.  As we walked hand in hand, I felt somewhat naked or like I was missing something the whole time.  Oh ya, the other two! Surprisingly, she wanted to hold my hand almost the entire time which was wonderful.  We sat at the sea-lion show and she smiled and was sometimes so quiet that I had to ask her if she was okay.  I began to realize that maybe she is loud to make a point or even to fight her way in the conversation battle for my attention versus her sisters.

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Oddly, I felt a tad more anxious without the girls because I think I was so concerned with pleasing her and making sure she was happy.  We laughed and took our time together.  Then after we left she demanded a Happy Meal for lunch. Shocker!  We went to pick up her sisters.  Emily was so sweet and made Avery a picture.  But, don’t be fooled we were back to our picking on each other ways the minute we stepped into the car.  I just took a deep breath and realized its back to the grind!  I enjoyed our day so much and I am looking forward to another one.  I hope to continue this tradition with them in the future so I intently focus on each girl as an individual. Many people ask me if they are different in their ways.  It’s a little silly because children that are not born on the same day or different right?  I do understand the question though.  They do share some pretty neat DNA.

We teach the girls how lucky they are to be who they are and how they came into this world so miraculously.  It is only human nature to crave for a parent to know who they are in this world, “By Myself.”  Which is what the girls always say. (the By Myself part :)).  Just like Av peaking through this butterfly, the trips all have different colors and different wings that will take them different places in the world.  I am just trying to hold onto what I can before they want to fly off.  We will blink and it we will be there. So I am told by every mother in the world.

Avery with Stingrays

Life’s a dance…you learn as you go…

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It’s an old John Michael Montgomery song that says, “Life’s a dance, you learn as you go….sometimes you lead…sometimes you follow..,”  well if that is not the truth lately.  I am more like FOLLOWING these crazy little girls.  Working on my leading!  This year has gone by so incredibly fast and my heart is only preparing for all the others to do so as well.

We ended our year of preschool learning so much.  One of my favorite things has to be them coming home and reciting the Pledge of Allegiance.  It is like I almost anticipated the “INDA_BIZABLE” part and loved it so when they did.   They are working on writing their names and they for sure have a very large version of a capital letter down pat. (Usually taking up the entire page).  Their vocabulary is something that blows my mind.  One day you remember them barely saying a sentence two years ago and the next day they know all the words to Shake it Off!  I hope that is not a precursor to taking after me and my love for useless entertainment knowledge.   I may not be able to remember a chapter I just read of a certain book in middle school or a geometry equation but I could sure remember all the songs that New Kids on the Block sang.  Even 25 years later, I still do.  That part of me and my corny ways is a whole other type of blog!  Below was the first day of preschool in August.  Oh my how they already look so much more mature today!

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The girls have enjoyed continuing gymnastics and dance.  Performing was a whole other accomplishment that I am very proud of them doing.  Avery had no problem at their recent first recital standing on the huge stage in front of people.  She doesn’t lack for confidence and that is nothing new!  Camdyn has always been a little shy when it comes to trying new things and she defiantly didn’t care for this something new and scary idea.  Emily, I believe loves to shake her little groove thing, and is totally sassy about it too, but I think just to be in cahoots she joined Camdyn being utterly scared during dress rehearsal.  But, like the soldiers and darling girls they are…show time comes and they are looking for their number one fans in the crowd and they did it!  Not much to expect with four year olds other than them looking adorable in costumes.  Putting makeup on a four year old is another story.  Makeup on three four year olds and being somewhere at a certain time is not my idea of a relaxing hobby.  Dance mother may not be on my resume.

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So much talk this year about where we were sending the girls to school when there is still two years away from Kindergarten.  Then as the months went by I realized that the summer of 2016 will be the last summer before the hoopla of REAL school.  In anticipation my heart has been holding them a little closer these days.  This summer I am going to attempt to pick a Thursday each week that I will spend with just one.  Our own little day.  May not be much in the scheme of things but in all things triplets it is going to be pretty fun to have some individual time letting them decide what we are going to do that day.  There is already tears about who is “going first.”

We are blessed with sweet natured children.  Kind and really, really, darn funny.  Along with their obsessions with bathroom humor, we are working on not tattling on each other, “fibbing” to Mom and Dad, and manners.

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Recently, we were blessed in our family with the birth of our nephew, Coy.  Yes, there is a boy now in the mix.  Bless his little namesake heart he may not have a chance with all these girls including his big sister Reagan.  She isn’t tough to spot!  Cute little brown haired girl in the middle of all those look alikes.  Of course, holding a little one has made my heart just melt.  Bryan sees that look and has thrown out some, “you are crazy,” comments.  So, I am campaigning for a puppy in the near future instead!  At least they can’t whine and talk back to you!

 

We are excited for summer and looking forward to our first family vacation in September to Florida.  That blog post would be epic to report on traveling in airports with three four year olds!  But I am really looking forward to the memories.

Blessings and good luck to all the mamas who will be home ALL summer, EVERY DAY, ALL DAY, with their kiddos again. Hehehe.  We are all in this world of organized chaos.  Most days, there is no where else I would rather be!