Thursdays with a Trip: Avery’s adventure

Avery zoo 2015

This summer, I am working on a new idea for our ever so delightful threesome.  As any mother knows, it is difficult once you add another child, or two or three or four, to the mix to spend quality time with each individually.  I never really had that alone time with one baby to begin with, so spending individual time with each of my girls is something I really crave.  As blessed as this gift is having triplets I always really missed the opportunity to hold each of them for an extended period of time without one of the others screaming or needing something.  I never had the chance to really stare at them while they were sleeping, because they NEVER DID.  All those first with a newborn you cherish were so crazy and such a blur that I still really need that time with my girls and I think they need it too.

On Thursdays, I will be adventuring with one of the girls to wherever (within reason) they want to go with just ME.  May seem silly to some, but it really is a joy to take a breath and focus on one of them at a time.  You can imagine the process of choosing who goes first right?  I need to post Camdyn’s day which was the week before just by chance…So it was between Emily and Avery.  I made Daddy do this one and they drew names.  Ironically, there were no tears and Emily and Camdyn went to their summer session at their school with smiles and had a great day.

avery and mommy day at the zoo 2015

Avery chose the zoo…with everyone else in the city!  Here we are with our little selfie shot!  She grabbed my hand and my heart already knew it would be a great day.  She instantly picked the sea-lion show, stingray bay and the children’s area to play in the streams and spray grounds.  Avery is typically pretty loud and lately been full of a lot of sass.  As we walked hand in hand, I felt somewhat naked or like I was missing something the whole time.  Oh ya, the other two! Surprisingly, she wanted to hold my hand almost the entire time which was wonderful.  We sat at the sea-lion show and she smiled and was sometimes so quiet that I had to ask her if she was okay.  I began to realize that maybe she is loud to make a point or even to fight her way in the conversation battle for my attention versus her sisters.

Avery with Stingrays

Oddly, I felt a tad more anxious without the girls because I think I was so concerned with pleasing her and making sure she was happy.  We laughed and took our time together.  Then after we left she demanded a Happy Meal for lunch. Shocker!  We went to pick up her sisters.  Emily was so sweet and made Avery a picture.  But, don’t be fooled we were back to our picking on each other ways the minute we stepped into the car.  I just took a deep breath and realized its back to the grind!  I enjoyed our day so much and I am looking forward to another one.  I hope to continue this tradition with them in the future so I intently focus on each girl as an individual. Many people ask me if they are different in their ways.  It’s a little silly because children that are not born on the same day or different right?  I do understand the question though.  They do share some pretty neat DNA.

We teach the girls how lucky they are to be who they are and how they came into this world so miraculously.  It is only human nature to crave for a parent to know who they are in this world, “By Myself.”  Which is what the girls always say. (the By Myself part :)).  Just like Av peaking through this butterfly, the trips all have different colors and different wings that will take them different places in the world.  I am just trying to hold onto what I can before they want to fly off.  We will blink and it we will be there. So I am told by every mother in the world.

Avery with Stingrays

Wishing I could press PAUSE in the game of life…

I have not written a blog post in a month! Life has been pretty hairy right now.  Biggest change is that we SOLD our house! Yipppeee…Bad news was we got the news two weeks ago and they want us out by September 10, which is this coming Monday.  We spent all Labor Day weekend…laboring…and moving what we could to our rental house. The rental is surprisingly in the same neighborhood and my parents are thrilled.  It really was a blessing how it all worked out. We sold our house one night and in 24 hours had another place to live.  Thank goodness.  Now moving with three 18 month olds is another story! And three sickly kiddos.  They are battling the cold allergy stuff going around.  I am tired of dosing medicine on top of that too!

The Miss Onery and Independent Award goes to….Avery Lynn

The girls are all of the 18 month old toddlers they are!  They are wild, wooly and in to anything they can get their hands on, around, etc.  Quite jealous of each other’s time with me and the grandparents, possessive over toys and honestly sort of mean to each other right now. I look at it as a time of marking their territory and see this as the beginning of how it will probably be for the rest of their lives.  Hoping they will learn to love each other instead of bite each other or fight over toys.  Their 18 month check up went great. They are still growing and progressing awesome.  Emily is still the smallest and only in the 3-5% for weight but we love her just the way she is…That is why she is endearingly nicknamed “Emmie Bug” by her Dada.  Avery is honestly like a three-year old! She is in the 90% percentile for height and Camdyn is just in between the two.  All rocking and rolling and doing the funniest things right now.  Their vocabulary is increasing and Camdyn especially has been a little chatter box lately.  We have battled bed climbers, which has been not funny at all.  Emily crawled out and we heard her crying.  Fortunately she was not hurt, but she has not done that since.  We had to separate their beds a little until we move into our new house and can officially separate them in different rooms if we wish.  May be a good time for them each to have some privacy and peace and quiet.

Lil chatter box herself – Camdyn Lea

On another note, we celebrated my mom’s (MiMi) 60th birthday. Sorry Mom, I put it out there..We attempted a family dinner at a restaurant and that was not a good idea.  The girls just do not want to be contained at the moment.  We were those people who the other people stare at in the restaurant. Was  not a good feeling but we did our best to make her day and evening special.  This pic is of me, Mimi and Avery.

My Emmie Ray – Crazy hair huh? She won’t like me pulled it back!

In my downtown, haha, I started a group on Facebook – Mommies of Multiples (MOMs).  There are times where I feel moms of multiples can only understand the challenges with more than one child or even children that are the same age…at the same time…I invited 12 people I knew with twins or triplets to the group and it grew to 150 plus members in two weeks! We throw out topics related to raising multiples and it has been a good place to share information and talk to other moms with the same challenges.

So, we are packing up and moving on to the next chapter in our family. Our new home will not be ready until close to Christmas.  Although the stress associated with this process is unbearable at times, we are staying positive and looking forward to our first official new home as a family of five!

My prayers lately have been for strength…lots of energy…and praying I don’t get sick in the middle of being so worn out.  My other prayers are for the loved ones in my life.  My aunt is still undergoing chemotherapy, so many thoughts with her…And my friends, The Brewers, welcomed a new baby girl (Bryn) who had a major heart surgery just a week after she was born and still fighting through some challenges.  NICU life is so intense and difficult.  I feel for them so much.

I will update with newer pictures once we get settled and set up at the next house!  Hope all out there is well and many blessings at the fall and football season are upon us!


Kids do the funniest things, like this….

And then they look like such big girls when they pose for me like this…..


Em says, “No pictures please..”


Already practicing the “sorority” group photo pose

We always seem to get some cute pics at night in our jammies…

Always sneakin’ Miss A

Cam’s sweet smile

Yes, we have our moments..

For all those folks that say things like, “better you than me,” “I don’t envy you,” “bless your heart,” well…Yes, better me than you, you should envy me and my heart is the most blessed of anyone you will meet!  Hardest job in the work but biggest rewards.  Love, the Coys…